Good Enough

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For much of my life, I’ve known I had an issue with feeling “good enough.”

I grew up in THAT family where if I brought home all A’s and one B, my Dad would want to know why I had gotten a B.  Where nothing was ever enough. Where I wasn’t valued just for being me.  I excelled in many things just to prove I WAS enough. I put myself through college and graduate school. Proving I was enough just became a way of life for me.

But that’s not what I want to talk to you about today.  I came to terms with my “good enough” issues, and though I get an occasional opportunity to peel another layer of THAT onion, I’m doing much better on that front.

What I do want to talk about is what I discovered this fall…when I realized that I had fallen into a different kind of “good enough” trap.  I was at the final coaching retreat of a six month program, and my coach asked us to do something.  Every one of us committed to it and were all sure we could accomplish what we said we would.  Days later, (it seemed like weeks had gone by!) we went around the table and each talked about why we hadn’t done what we said we would.

One by one, EVERY SINGLE ONE of us talked about where we had stopped – because EVERY SINGLE ONE of us fell short of our goal. And EVERY SINGLE ONE of us had stopped when we felt we had done enough things out of our comfort zones – and we ALL had decided that our efforts were good enough.

And, just like that, I realized that I had created a “good enough” life. My relationships were “good enough,” my business was “good enough,” my life, in general was “good enough.”  Somewhere along the way, I had given up on doing and being my best and had settled for “good enough.”

I decided THAT DAY that I would not settle for good enough ever again.  I want a life where I know that I am being the BEST I can be in each moment.  That doesn’t mean that I always have to choose to be busy or productive or the best out there.  It doesn’t mean that I have to prove anything to anyone. I don’t have to judge myself or anyone else. I have simply committed to being aware of who I’m being in the moment and to choosing the best I can be…in that moment.

My life has changed dramatically since I made that decision. I won’t tell you it’s been easy. But I will tell you it’s worth it.  To know that in every moment, I’m choosing to be the best me I can be…that’s freedom. That’s joy. That’s me stepping into the fullest expression of who God created me to be. And THAT’s how I want to live my life.

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