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Step Into Your Greatness… You KNOW It’s Time!

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Do you have a feeling that there’s MORE that you’re called to do in the world… your business… your life? If you knew you only had a few years left to live on the planet, are you doing the work you want to do? Are you in relationships with people you love? Living where you want to live? Do you feel like there are some places where you need to step up in your business? your relationships? your life? If you answered yes to some or all of those questions, you’re not alone. Every week, I talk with dozens of business owners who know there is something more they’re supposed to be doing. More people whose lives they can impact, more income they can receive for the services they provide, that a better lifestyle is possible for themselves and their families. It’s not that they’re not happy. It’s not that they’re not already doing great work. It’s not that they think they’re not successful. It’s just that they know there’s more.  And they can’t figure out what’s in their way of getting there. That’s the one thing they ALL have in common… There’s just something they can’t see. Something they can feel around the edges of… but not quite put their finger on… Sometimes they know where they are… and where they want to be… and yet they can’t see the strategy that will get them from here to there. Many of you reading this are probably good at doing this for other people – pointing out to them what seems so obvious to you, though they can’t see it at all! We all need a little help getting clear on our path. We all need someone who can see what we can’t. People today are waking up hoping to find the solution that you or your program offer. It’s time for YOU to step into your greatness… you KNOW it’s time! People need you now.  ...

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Are you Judge, Jury and Executioner?

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Are you Judge, Jury and Executioner?

I had a big breakthrough recently on what motivates me. I thought about titling this post Self Hate… ’cause I realized that is exactly what DOES NOT motivate me…let me tell you how this breakthrough came to be… After a really great week with my daughter traveling up to our old ‘hood in Portland and seeing as many people as the calendar and our energy level could possibly fit in… we headed to SoCal for move in to her sophomore year of college.  We had a great summer break between her freshman and sophomore years – almost 5 months long. We get along really well and enjoy each other’s company… so when it came time to drop her off at college this year, it was almost like freshman year all over again with the return of the Empty Nest! What came next is what set me up perfectly for this breakthrough… One of the big changes for us this summer was that we moved a few towns north of where we’ve been for 5 years. The place we were moving into wasn’t quite finished, so I had made arrangements to stay in a condo belonging to some friends who were out of town, while more work got completed. That’s where my breakdown began that created the space for this huge breakthrough… My daughter dropped me off at the condo in a town where I knew no one in the middle of one of the worst heat waves of the summer! My big plans to spend a lot of time outside adjusting to my empty nest were just not going to happen.  (See that gorgeous setting? TOO hot to be out there!) I spent a lot of time inside with only my thoughts for company and I became much more aware of some of the chatter that was going on in the background of my mind… I am a very positive, confident woman and I have to say I was shocked at some of what was STILL going on in my head.  I know lots of tricks to quiet those voices, but I decided it was time to allow them to have their “air” time to see what I needed to hear.  I found myself critical of myself in so many ways. Most surprising was how I somehow still had some religious script in my head telling me that certain things happened because I was not a good person… that if I were a better person, that my life would be different. The thoughts ranged from “Who do you think you are…” to “See, that’s what you get…” to “Well, what did you expect?”  to “If you don’t do this, then you can’t have that…” to “Well, that’s your punishment for x,y,z…” Now these are not my normal, conscious thoughts – but in the quiet, with only myself to talk with, I heard them again. I was absolutely stunned! I’m sharing this with you because you might also be unaware of some of those subtle scripts and voices chattering in the background. Maybe you keep yourself so busy or medicated that you don’t let yourself hear them… or maybe you silence them right away. I’ve made a different choice with this discovery. I am consciously choosing a more loving thought whenever that negative chatter comes up.  I’m not trying to silence it anymore. I’m changing the dialogue. I would never talk to someone else with those negative, hurtful, punishing words… why would I talk to myself that way? I am loving myself into my greatness. You can too. And if...

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Clinging to Safety

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Sometimes we KNOW it’s time to move away from something that isn’t the right fit for us any more… yet we cling to it because it feels safe. And yet when we cling to safety, we don’t allow any space for something better to come into our lives. Recently I had to let go of a client before I was ready… I knew I could still serve them. I knew I could still help them make more money and have more impact. And yet, I knew it didn’t feel right any more.  That it was time to let go and move on.  It was hard! I really cared about them and their business… but it was time to say goodbye. I was clinging to the safety of keeping this client, while my heart was longing to work with people more aligned with my personal and work values. So I did a really crazy, scary thing.  I let them go without having a replacement. I let them go without judging how they wanted to do business. I let them go knowing what really mattered was who I want to be and how I want to serve my clients.  I let them go with love… and, yes,  a little fear for what was next! This was a BIG client… so the decision wasn’t easy…But I could see that clinging to safety was killing me… making me feel contracted and small where I usually feel expansive! I let that client go and within weeks, three new, BIGGER, MORE IDEAL clients stepped into my life. If I hadn’t been willing to let go of the death grip I had on feeling safe, this wouldn’t have happened. Where are you clinging to safety? I truly believe in the law that states that you have to let go of something of a lower nature, in order to receive something of a higher nature. What isn’t serving you that you are clinging to… just because it feels safe?  What are you missing out on by not opening yourself to something even better? I believe in...

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Are You a Bully?

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Are You a Bully?

I had a huge AHA last week and I wanted to share it with you… I think it was triggered by a HUGE conversation on Facebook about coaches who are bullies and people leaving certain coach’s programs in big numbers.  I read it while I was in Disneyland and it got me thinking… This year I’ve committed to having lots of adventures and new experiences and I’ve been loving everything I’ve been doing… a course on sensuality, a workshop on Undefended Love, walks in new neighborhoods, training for a half marathon and most recently a trip to Disneyland with my family! Disneyland was amazing! We had an incredible strategy and didn’t wait for longer than 20 minutes for any ride and walked almost 30 miles in 3 days… and it was in Disneyland that I had my big AHA!  I am not a huge roller coaster fan, and I had decided that part of my adventure would be riding almost everything in the park. You know… push through the fear, right?  I was standing outside the Tower of Terror with my daughter … a ride I HAVE gone on in the past and really didn’t like..debating on whether I was going to go and it hit me… that I wasn’t pushing through the fear because I wanted what was on the other side... as much as I was bullying myself and trying to MAKE myself do it! As if doing something that made me that uncomfortable made me a better person. You know how you get those opportunities to learn a lesson over and over again?  Well, one thought led to another and it dawned on my that I have attracted some people with bullying behavior into my life in the last few years and I couldn’t figure out why… till I realized that I was bullying myself and trying to force myself to do things I didn’t want to do. And so in a subconscious way, I was allowing people into my life who were bullies!  Once I realized it, they were gone pretty fast…but I couldn’t figure out why they were there for awhile. And I got it… I DO believe in moving through fear… but only when something I really want that makes me happy is on the other side. I don’t need to do things that scare me just for the sake of desensitizing myself to fear… I’ve been in a lot of programs where I’ve walked on fire, hiked with bricks in my backpack, bent rebar with my throat… and it was helpful for a short time.  But it doesn’t last. I realized there were things far scarier than physical challenges. So my new challenge is to be really loving to myself and to let my inner mean girl take a break.  She’s done a good job for a long time… and now it’s time to focus on loving myself into what’s next for me. If you have a bully inside who needs a vacation, make a choice to let them go today.  It’s SO...

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What do you want?

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What do you want?

What do you want that you don’t already have? REALLY want…as in REALLY, REALLY want? This is the question you have to ask yourself as you’re making decisions about your life or your business/career. So many people get stuck doing things they REALLY DON’T want to do…because they don’t take the time to think about what they really want in their lives. So just for today…take a moment and ask yourself what you really want that you don’t already have… And let that answer be your guide…...

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Lightening and Deepening

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I had a lovely conversation with a new friend last week and I was struck by the experience of both lightening and deepening I had with her. The lightening came partly from the laughter as we shared some of our life stories.  And partly from me deciding to just show up as myself…and not worry about whether certain topics were off limits or too early or too vulnerable. I decided to just bring my authentic self to the table and see what happened. I want to live my life from this place and I’m just going to “bring it” from now on. Because what followed the lightening was the deepening. As I relaxed and let go of expectations and rules about what was OK to share with someone new and any attachment I had to any particular outcomes, the conversation got deeper. And then there was this beautiful dance of lightening and deepening and I found myself opening my heart in new ways. To just be present in the moment without attachment is such a tricky thing in our culture.  So many messages telling us we should feel one way or another or BE one way or another. For an evening I made the choice to just BE with what is…to be in the moment without expectation and attachment. I want to continue to create my life this way. I want to consciously choose moment by moment to simply BE with what is. I consciously choose to open my heart. I am willing to go lighter and deeper. How about you? Where are you willing to go lighter and deeper?...

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